Relationship Spotting: Is Pinterest Encouraging Women To Be Doormats?
Every time I go on Pinterest, I gag at all the overly sentimental, flowery love images they ram down our throats. There are so many overly emotional messages there that say things like: “I’m not as strong as I pretend to be” or “Im the kind of girl who tells the cops I ran into my boyfriend’s fist because I am a Southern girl”.
I understand that these little quotes are supposed to appeal to the idea of femininity, but the message seems antiquated and a little sexist.
I just finished re-reading a book called Gone, Girl, by Gillian Flynn. The book is utterly amazing and something everyone should read. One of the ideas it toys with is that we act a certain way when we meet a mate-but our true selves eventually come out. Women may act more docile, and men may be more chivalrous when they are courting someone, but eventually the lazy, burping, farting, overly-sensitive sides of us come out, and oftentimes that isn’t pretty.
Women in this day and age are strong, dynamic, forward thinking leaders, and the idea that any of them would want to grow up to be someone’s doormat is offensive to me. If I could rewrite this message it would end like this:
I am the type of girl who is going to run free until she finds someone that can keep up. The kind of girl who won’t settle for mediocrity, and doesn’t want to date a little bitch. The kind of girl who deserves the best, and is willing to wait for it.via ]